Written by: Lauren Aikin-Smith (She/They) PhD, LCSW, CHES
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is known for its success in improving relationships by enhancing emotional attachment and connection. EFT was developed in the 1980s by Dr. Sue Johnson. EFT is based on attachment theory, which explores how we form bonds and respond to separation and distress.
What Makes EFT Helpful?
EFT works by helping clients recognize and express emotional needs, which can often be hidden behind conflict or distancing behaviors. When someone feels disconnected or misunderstood, they may resort to either withdrawing or becoming overly critical—both of which can create a negative cycle of interaction. EFT aims to help individuals identify these patterns and communicate their underlying emotions more effectively. This approach is especially helpful for those who want to break the cycle of recurring conflicts and rediscover intimacy and understanding.
Techniques
EFT includes several core techniques designed to help people deepen their emotional awareness and connection:
- Identifying Negative Interaction Patterns: Clients learn to recognize and understand the repeating negative cycles that arise in their relationships.
- Exploring Emotional Needs: EFT encourages clients to go beneath surface-level reactions and uncover deeper emotions, like fear of rejection or longing for closeness.
- Creating New, Positive Interactions: Once these patterns and emotions are understood, new ways of interacting that are more positive and nurturing are developed.
Conclusion
Emotionally Focused Therapy offers a unique and supportive path to understanding emotions and building stronger, healthier relationships. Through learning to recognize patterns, exploring emotional needs, and creating new interactions, EFT fosters a foundation of trust and secure attachment. Whether you’re seeking to heal a struggling relationship or simply deepen your connection with yourself and others, EFT can be a powerful tool for emotional growth and transformation. Many of our therapists in our Pittsburgh, PA office are skilled in offering EFT therapy in conjunction with many other methods, including The Gottman Method and Systemic Sex Therapy.
If you think EFT could be the right approach for you (and your partner) make an appointment with one of our therapists by emailing info@elementspgh.com or calling 412-336-8832.
The information contained in this blog does not replace professional treatment or diagnosis and is for educational purposes only.
